What Real Friendship Is
Friendship is a word that holds great significance to me. As a result of this, I found it very hard to make friends and even more difficult to trust people. I made a powerful discovery that changed my life forever.
I want to talk about our friendship, but I know I’m not the best person to do it. I don’t exactly have a lot of friends.
The most common reason I lose friends is because I let the friendship fade away. If I’m not hearing from you, you’re probably not hearing from me because I have the tendency to believe I must be bothersome to you.
Which brings me to the first thing I need from you “Acceptance”
I’m hoping you can accept that I’m awkward and sometimes shy. Can you accept me as your friend even if I don’t act like you or what you’d expect?
I want to know that we’re both committed to the friendship enough to avoid letting conflict in the way.
I suppose what I’ve really been looking for is the kind of friendship that feels more like family than not and I’ve been looking for friends who really value other people and welcome authenticity. There’s nearly nothing worse than walking around, feeling like you can’t be yourself with the people who supposedly love you.
- Friendship of Utility
Sometimes I feel like friendship is a minefield. My whole life, people have always told me that I couldn’t be honest with other people, not really. Like they were saying : “When they really get to know you they will run?”
When we were kids, it was still acceptable to ask : “would you like to be my friend?”
I discovered that relationships are simply a reflection of the value we believe our lives hold. Therefore, when we tolerate toxic, condescending and unhealthy relationships it reveals the lack of value that we have for ourselves.
Relationships that are not taking your life higher are not healthy for you. I am thankful to now be at a place in my life where I have healthy relationships. Now I want to share some of the qualities I look for in friends.
- Friendship is Pleasure
Loyalty is a key to successful friendships. As I stated earlier, I have experienced so much betrayal in my life that it made me almost paranoid. When you have been hurt so many times you start to become suspicious of everyone.
Loyalty is very important to me. Loyalty means that you are trustworthy and reliable. If you do not have trust then you ultimately do not have relationship at all. You want to surround yourself with people that are dependable.
In other words, you need people that you can share things with and not have to worry about that information getting into the wrong hands. You need people you can confide in and know that your heart is safe. I know what it is like to be around people that you are constantly guarded and closed with. That is a miserable feeling and those are not the types of relationships you want in your life.
- Friendship of the Good
You need people that will love you unconditionally. You need to surround yourself with people that are concerned about your wellbeing and your welfare.
Best friends are the ones that love the parts of us that we hide from others.
- You need friends that bring out the best in you.
- One of the things I love about right relationships is that they always elevate your life.
- If you assess your relationships and find that they are always pulling you down, then it might be time for you to change your inner circle.
At this stage of my life, I am so thankful that I have people around me that genuinely love me, support me and believe in the greatness in me.
More importantly, we all support and push each other to new realms of success.
My best friend has been one of my biggest supporters and encouragers. At some of the lowest moments of my life, he has believed in me and pushed me to keep going.
The right partnerships will perceive your value and help pull greatness out of you
