The Me: "You Can’t See" (Part. One)
What Helped You Forgive Yourself?
Forgiveness is something I really struggle with. The person that is taking the longest time to forgive is myself.
“What helped you forgive yourself?”
Finding out and accepting I was not who I am right now at a young age was no problem for me, however I’ve been struggling with my gender identity for a while now, not because I wouldn’t accept myself but because I have no idea of who I am.
Personally, this is not my first pride month. Last year I was really struggling with accepting and sharing my sexuality with others. Now that I have though, I’ve never felt more myself and I cannot wait to heal, grow and love unapologetically.
I’ve always said the life of an LGBTQIA+ person is in 3 levels :
1. Years of coming to accepting yourself.
2. Finding acceptance in your family and friends.
3. Finding acceptance from the community.
Ironically, 3 is the hardest to achieve (if at all)
People expect people to be more than people. There is bullying in all communities from within and outside it, there are gay people who are awful people but also never seen anyone being bullied cause they are too tall or smooth or skinny.
Bullied or ignored or not given a chance or not seen as equal or an option, don’t get stuck on linguistics. There is wonderful support and liberation to be found in the LGBT community, which still has a long way to go to be more inclusive.
Human nature is human nature regardless of sexuality or anything else for that matter. Its what makes humans great and shit at the same time
Many talk about :
"acceptance, beauty coming in all colors and forms, body positivity but they act the opposite on dating medias."
They preach one thing in public and but practice the opposite in private, we are a diverse group that cuts across many socio-economic lines.
What unites us is the hatered of others directed toward us, we are typically defined by what we are not "love everyone" is hard to do when we don’t love ourselves. Let’s all do better, peace and love y’all.
If you ever loose who you are, it’s never too late to find yourself again and when you stumble across the person who you used to be, they will be so happy to see you.
“It’s hard to be yourself when some people don’t accept the real you. Be you, stay true to yourself, be proud of who you are.”
A reminder that you don’t have to have a solid idea of who you are to be. Your identity can be on a spectrum, it can be vague. You owe no one specifics and your reasons for identifying with something are your own.
Too many people feel pressured to be 100% in how they feel about their identity and fit neatly into boxes but the beauty in being lgbtqia is that there's no concrete boxes. Much like a cat, you literally fit wherever you sit.
“You can change and you can experiment with new things while trying the figure yourself out. You can change your name, pronouns and your label as many times as you want. There are no rules, this journey will always be yours to navigate how you wish.”
Who knows what the future holds for me and my understanding of myself. I don’t owe anyone 100% certainty because no one is 100% on everything with themselves
Nothing can be more empowering than becoming comfortable in your skin. Being at peace with your past, with who you are and knowing that the best version of you is always being created when you do things with the sole intention of being selfless and for God.
There’s a reason “tell me who you’re friends with and I’ll tell you who you are” is a phrase that exists.
Who you choose to be friends with is a reflection of who you are. If you have no problem being close to someone who offends minorities and doesn’t make the effort to learn and understand why what they said or did is wrong, chances are you too, don’t understand why what your friend did is wrong and you too won’t make the effort to research and educate yourself.
Remember this:
“no matter who you are, what your social status, how much money you have and how you acquired it. — who you oppressed.”
In the not too distant future, we will stand in front of the mightiest of judges and be held accountable for it all. Always be proud of who you are and never let anyone tell you different.
Each and every day you are presented with a choice that will determine who you are and who you will become.
- Do you choose to be selfless and do the right thing?
- Do you choose to be someone who only cares for themselves? You always have the choice to be the difference.
Be true to who you are, today and everyday. Don’t belittle yourself by anyone, have the courage to be who you are ♡
Remember:
- never be afraid to be who you are and never let anyone bring you down. Sstand loud and proud. — “proud of you”
- no matter where you are in the world, there will always be someone who loves you and accepts for who you are.
- own who you are.
- proud to represent everyone out there who is fighting a battle to be accepted and loved for being yourself.
- be you, do you, for you.
(Special thanks to):
to be continue…
